Parenting

  • Best Spanish Podcasts for Kids

    I’m a HUGE podcast listener, and love to turn one on while in the car or at home doing housey things. Now that my kids are old enough to appreciate podcasts themselves, I’ve become very invested in finding the Spanish podcasts for kids! 

    I like to turn these on while we’re all in the car— especially during long road trips, but also when we’re doing school drop-offs or errands (although lately my kids demand the Encanto soundtrack every time we’re in the car, soooo…). Podcasts are also PERFECT for quiet time, since the kids can play with Magnatiles or Legos or paint or do other quiet things while they listen. 

    And, confession? I have also been known to put on a podcast during dinner when my husband Josh is out of town and I’m really tired and just need everyone to eat and let me eat in mostly-silence. Magic! 

    Below is my list of the best Spanish podcasts for kids, divided by type of podcast! Pretty much all of them are best for kids with a solid level of Spanish, but I did find a couple that are perfect for Spanish learners. 

    Podcasts are such an amazing way to boost kids’ exposure to Spanish, so don’t sleep on these great options! 

    Little girl with headphones and the text "best Spanish podcasts for kids."

    PODCASTS FOR SPANISH LEARNERS

    Eat your Spanish

    On Apple Podcasts

    Level: Beginner

    I will confess right now that this is one podcast we haven’t listened to, but that’s because it’s aimed specifically at Spanish learners who are beginners. I’ve heard wonderful things about it though! I sampled a couple of episodes so I could write this little summary, and the audio is mostly English, introducing small bits of Spanish vocab through music and games. I think this is an AMAZING option for kids who are just starting with español! So far, there are two full seasons, with more episodes currently in production. 

    Spanish stories for kids

    On Apple Podcasts

    Level: Intermediate – advanced

    This podcast could technically also be under the category of classic stories and fairytales. However, because the audio is very clear and spoken more slowly than lots of other podcasts, I think it would be great for Spanish learners who are pretty advanced but not quite 100% fluent. Each episode is 10ish minutes long, and the episodes are introduced in English by the storyteller’s son (who also gives vocabulary words to listen for throughout the episode, and reviews them afterward). 

    CLASSIC STORY / FAIRYTALE PODCASTS

    Cuentos encantados

    On Apple Podcasts | on Spotify

    Level: Intermediate – advanced

    My kids love listening to this podcast! And I am also a big fan of these “magical stories,” which include many traditional fairy tales (Hansel and Gretel, the Princess and the Pea), and also plenty of stories I had never heard before. Looks like they stopped recording in 2020, but the good news is that there are 50 episodes! Each episode is short-ish (between 10-15 minutes long), so we blew through them pretty quickly and are on Round II of listening. The narrator has a definite Spanish accent (as in, from Spain), which I thought was fun for my little mexicanitas to become familiar with. 

    Cuento Aventuras

    On Apple Podcasts

    Level: Advanced

    This podcast has been around for a while, so even though the last episode produced was in 2020, there’s quite a backlog of episodes to enjoy! The podcast itself includes stories, fables, and jokes for kids to listen to in Spanish. As for the stories, it’s everything from classic Aesop’s fables to traditional fairy tales and even some made-up stories by podcaster Gastón Morineau. This one feels a little more like a radio show than some of the others, because the podcaster will often give shout-outs to listeners that write or call in! 

    Érase una vez: Cuentos infantiles

    On Spotify

    Level: Advanced

    This is another great collection of stories! The podcast also features beautiful music and high quality audio, as well as shout-outs to kid listeners that leave voicemails at the beginning. The podcast started off with a season of “spooky stories” about a little ghost, which I’m saving for the kids to listen to next October I think.

    READ-ALOUD PODCASTS

    Puro cuento 

    On Spotify

    Level: Advanced

    This is a fun children’s book-based podcast with high-quality music. It’s a great one for short car rides, because the stories are on the shorter side (between about 3-10 minutes). This podcast features several books that we’ve read before, but even more that we haven’t! I LOVE this podcast because I’ve read a lot about the amazing benefits for kids of listening to audiobooks (here’s one study, por ejemplo), but of course it’s kind of tricky to find audiobooks in Spanish. The last episode was produced in 2020, but hopefully they come back and if not, there’s a good backlog! 

    ¿Me lees un cuento?

    On Spotify

    Level: Intermediate – advanced

    This podcast is created by the Spanish publishing house Editorial Hola Monstruo, and is based on read-alouds of their books. The hosts Mariela, Alexandra and Israel recommend books they love, as well as movies for the whole family. Some episodes are read-alouds, while others are retellings of their favorite movies. This is a podcast with longer episodes (10-30 minutes usually) and the format is basically parents reading aloud a book to their child (with a lot of child participation/response). 

    Hoy quiero contarles 

    On Spotify

    Level: Intermediate – advanced

    Listening to this podcast kind of feels like listening to a children’s book on CD (or… whatever people use these days instead of CDs). And that’s because dominicana writer and storyteller Anya Damirón loosely reads us her favorite books (she doesn’t stick exactly to the text). This one has a lot of music and sound effects throughout, which makes it very engaging and perfect for younger kids especially.

    THEMED PODCASTS

    Allegro Mágico

    On Apple Podcasts | on Spotify

    Level: Advanced

    I think this podcast is so wonderful! Allegro Mágico is a podcast created by a mamá mexicana who wanted her daughters to learn about classical music. Some episodes are a deep dive into a composer (Tchaikovsky, for example), while others feature stories accompanied by classical music or simply famous classical music pieces. I have to admit that my younger daughters aren’t quite as captivated by some of these episodes as I am (maybe because they do feature longer segments of classical music in between the story/talking); perhaps best for older listeners or to have on in the background while younger kids play or do other things. The music is so beautiful! Episodes are 10-20 minutes long.

    Brains On en Español 

    On Apple Podcasts | on Spotify

    Level: Advanced (best for kids ages 7-11)

    This podcast sadly only has 7 episodes, but I was so excited to find it for my insatiably curious 7-year-old. Host Molly Bloom and a child co-host (the kids have varying levels of Spanish, la verdad) find the answers to some of life’s most interesting questions in each 30 minute science-based episode. This podcast is a translation of the English version, and sadly it looks like the project didn’t get very far, but this is still a nice little series for an older kid. 

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    P.S. Listening to the best Spanish podcasts for kids is definitely one of them, but here are more easy ways to add Spanish to the daily routine

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  • What’s Your Bilingual Parenting Type?

    The author Gretchen Rubin has a podcast called “Happier” that I like very much. One of the segments in her podcast is what she calls a “know yourself better” question. Sometimes it’s hard to see ourselves clearly, or to understand why we act the way we do. So Rubin and her co-host (and sister!) will ask a question like, “What types of activities energize you?” and then the listener can pick which ones resonate: learning, or parties, or creating, or whatever the case may be.

    I’ve been thinking about this recently, because in all these years of working with parents in the U.S. raising bilingual children, I’ve noticed that most fall into three main bilingual parenting types. If I were on the Happier podcast, I would ask you to decide which of these you would answer “yes!” to:

    • 1. Do you want to speak Spanish at home with the kids but haven’t quite gotten started? Is your bilingual parenting theme song “I Have a Dream” from Tangled (“I have a dream, I have a dream… Like everybody else, I have a dream.”)? Do you and/or your partner speak Spanish, but your kids don’t (yet)?
    • 2. Do you have a family language plan that your family is on board with? Do you speak plenty of Spanish at home already? If bilingual parenting was a high-school graduating class, would you be voted “Most Ambitious”?
    • 3. Do you live a Spanglish life and speak Spanish when the mood or inspiration strikes? Do you follow your kids’ lead and speak whichever language they’re speaking? Did you speak more Spanish at home when they were younger, but now mostly speak English?
    READ ON TO FIND YOUR BILINGUAL PARENTING TYPE:

    If you picked #1: You are LA SOÑADORA. Your kids aren’t currently bilingual but you can envision a reality in which they are, and you might need a little help and guidance to get there!

    If you picked #2: You are LA EXPERTA. You have a genuine passion for raising your kids bilingually and you know exactly what to do and how to do it!

    If you picked #3: You are LA AVENTURERA. You go where the day leads you, linguistically speaking. You have an idea of what you want to achieve, but sometimes life leads you down a different path. You’re great at following your intuition but might need some structure to make sure your kids hear and speak plenty of Spanish!

    What do you think? Did any of these resonate with you?

    This theory is a work in progress, so let me know if you felt one of these is your type and if so, which one!

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  • #3before3, a Parenting Hack!

    Of all the things I thought I would do as a parent, reading to my kids was for sure top of the list. But can I confess something? I definitely thought I would be a “bedtime stories” type of mom and so far… I’m kind of not? 

    At this very moment, my kids are newly-6, 3, and 1.5. And for basically all of my parenting career until now, the only book I wanted to be reading after 7 pm was MINE! With a baby, then toddler and baby, then preschooler, toddler and baby… by the time bedtime rolled around I just needed everyone to be in bed as fast as possible. You know, for my sanity. 

    Mom reading #3before3 with her 3 daughters.

    But because reading with the girls was still very important to me, I came up with a little strategy (and then made it a hashtag, as one does): #3before3! Every day, I do my best to read 3 picture books with the kids before 3 pm. This only takes 10-15 minutes and it’s such a welcome little break for all of us!  

    Here are the pros:

    • We get to connect in a meaningful (but easy and chill) way during the day
    • It’s doable because we’re all home anyway (hello, entire year of COVID pandemic) and I can pick a time when my kids are excited to sit down and read with me—not always the case when they’re tired
    • When bedtime comes around I can get those children IN BED just a little quicker, hallelujah amen! 

    I can’t recommend this highly enough! We’re now halfway through March, AKA National Reading Month, and I want to challenge you to try reading #3before3 for the rest of the month and see how it works for your family! 

    P.S. Now that the kids are getting a little older, we do sometimes read together before bedtime and I’m finally like OH, I can see why people like this! (Some of our favorite Spanish bedtime stories here, in case you’d like to see.) But it’s still nice to know that we did our reading early in the day, and that way if I’m fried at bedtime or the kids are up late for whatever reason, I don’t feel bad about skipping the bedtime story. #3before3, it just might change your life!

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  • 3 Ways to Make Learning Fun

    In the past few weeks I’ve picked up three new books on how to help children learn as I navigate this pandemic-homeschool season. And one thing they’ve all pointed out is this: the best way for kids to learn is if you make it fun. Which, like, of course! But when there’s homework to be done and worksheets in the world and tasks to accomplish… making learning fun just sometimes feels like a lot of effort. 

    I think that concept is especially true when teaching our kids Spanish here in the U.S. though! So I wanted to share three ways I’ve been really trying to make reading and writing in Spanish MORE FUN. Which is something I think we can all use a little more of in this terrible Year of Our Lord 2020. 

    Book bingo to make learning fun.

    1. GAMIFY. When I was prepping materials for BILINGUIFY!, I gave my graphic designer a list of favorite picture books in Spanish that I wanted to recommend to my students. She had the awesome idea to make that list into a book bingo instead! It’s MUCH more fun for my kids to fill out that bingo card as we read new books than to go through a list (bonus that it’s also a cool way to track what we’ve read). I also heard from parents in the class that it helped get their kids excited about reading these books even if they had previously been resistant to reading/being read to in Spanish. I’m trying to carry forward this concept of gamification into other parts of our learning now!

    2. INVITE. This is one of my favorite things for helping my kindergartener practice writing in Spanish: I write her a little note & ask her to write back. Then I leave it somewhere for her to find. Then she writes me one! It’s such an easy way to make learning fun. At first I just did these on loose pieces of paper, but now we pass a little notebook back and forth and it’s so awesome to see our older little notes (like when she described her dream from the night before IN DETAIL, haha). 

    3. PRETEND. Sometimes there’s just no getting around a worksheet or something else your kid is not that excited about doing. So in those moments you gotta bust out the pretending: “Excuse me, I need this edited right away! I have to send it to press immediately! Can you please help?? Do you think you can edit this for me really quick? … Oh my gosh, I’m so glad you’re available.” BOOM, worksheet done. Don’t underestimate your kid’s enthusiasm for play!

    I hope these ideas are helpful as we tackle a new year of schoolwork & trying to raise those bilingual babies. My goal is always to help my kids feel like both Spanish and English are a part of them. And I know the best way for that to happen is if speaking español is just… fun! 

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  • What we’re using for Bilingual Homeschool

    2020 is the year this sentence became normal: “How are your kids going back to school this year?” 

    So many options we never even considered before! Virtual, in-person, hybrid and… homeschool. We chose that last option and are embarking on a bilingual homeschool journey (which is a sentence I never—¡NUNCA!—thought I’d write!). 

    Two little girls ready for bilingual homeschool.

    I am clearly not a homeschooling expert since this is my first year doing it, but I always find it interesting to know what has been helping other families (I’m a fan of “life/mom-hacks”). In this post I thought I’d share some things we’re using to make bilingual homeschool work! I think a lot of these can also work as a supplement to any kind of schooling, whether that’s virtual or hybrid or good, old-fashioned regular school. 

    For reference my kids are quite little (5, 3, and 1), so homeschooling this year looks like teaching a kindergartener and a preschooler while managing a toddler.

    FOR MY KINDERGARTENER:

    KiwiCo: First on the list is this amaaazing subscription service for science and art projects to help us out with STEM (not my strong suit). I’ve heard great things about KiwiCo for MONTHS, and homeschooling was the perfect excuse to subscribe for my older girls. I signed each kid up for her own (Kiwi Crate for my 5-year-old, Koala Crate for my 3-year-old), and they’re both just ecstatic to have their own little happy mail! And I really love that these boxes help my kids work on problem-solving & STEM skills (and make me feel like I’m the kind of mom who regularly shops for and preps kid crafts because… I am not). You can get 30% off your first month’s order with code SHARE30!

    Countdown timer: I’m so happy with this little thing! This timer has made a big difference in my kids’ ability to manage their own time (whether that’s “You have 10 minutes to clean up and get ready” or “You have about 25 minutes until you need to be on a Zoom call”). Plus it’s so happy (yellow!) and it’s also teaching them to count by 5’s!

    Libros de Texto Secretaría de Educación Pública: I had a hard time finding homeschool resources in Spanish for native speakers, so I decided just to use the books that kids use in school in Mexico. Luckily you can find them for free online (though I’m still trying to track down physical copies). They’re not perfect since they’re meant to be used in a classroom setting, but they’re good enough for now.  

    The Good and the Beautiful curriculum: I saw this homeschool curriculum recommended all over the place when I was trying to figure out what I needed for this year. We’re using it for both math and (English) language arts, and I’ve been really happy with it! It’s “open and go,” meaning I don’t need to do any prep work beforehand, it’s relatively light on the worksheets, and plenty of the activities are more play-based. 

    Bilingual homeschool resources on a table.

    Hoffman Academy + Virtual Ballet: We have moved extracurricular activities online for the time being (though very much looking forward to doing in-person classes again when we can!). Hija mayor has been learning piano with Hoffman Academy for about a year now! And both girls take ballet via Zoom from a teacher in Querétaro, MX. I was skeptical about doing a ballet class online, but one nice perk is that it’s in Spanish (always looking for more Spanish exposure!). They do pretty well, considering, and they’re always happy to see the teacher and other little kids even if it’s just through the screen. 

    FOR MY PRESCHOOLER:

    There’s a lot of overlap between the two, since I’m often doing Kindergarten homeschool with all three kids and I just try to adapt the lessons to be 3-year-old friendly. But I wanted to share a couple of resources specifically for preschoolers that I think are amazing! 

    Pre-K Spanish Digital Bundle: My friend Corrie from Mama Llama Linguist just came out with this amazing Spanish Morning Binder for bilingual preschoolers! You can grab it for over 130 nature-themed printables, with 26 units on things like the alphabet, early math and number tracing, phonics, shapes & colors. This one is also no-prep (besides printing out the materials) which I appreciate soooo much! Pro-tip: you can put these sheets in dry-erase pocket sleeves and reuse them!

    LinguaLearner: My OTHER friend Briana and her sister created this bilingual Spanish/English preschool curriculum that sends subscribers 8 easy-to-follow bilingual lessons each month. You get the list of materials to purchase, literature recommendations to go along with the lesson, and the lesson plan + handouts to print out. It’s really well-done, research based, and very affordable at about $10 per month and only $99 for the whole year! They also have some free printables if you want to try those first!

    Note: If you buy something through these links, I may earn an affiliate commission, at no cost to you. I only recommend products I genuinely like! ¡Gracias por leerme!

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  • Reading Picture Books to a Baby

    I’m going to tell you something that may surprise you. 

    If I had to choose between reading a board book or a picture book to a baby, I’d choose a picture book almost every time. 

    I know! It’s shocking! 

    “But why?” you might ask. “Aren’t board books specifically designed for babies, in that they’re relatively indestructible and also very short?” And the answer is yes, of course! We have and love lots of board books. But because they’re SO short, I tend to transition my babies to picture books fairly early on because, well, I get really bored reading the same 7 sentences in board books over and over for months. 

    I’ve said this so many times, but one of the key things to make reading with kids sustainable is making sure it’s enjoyable for EVERYONE, including the parent. So you & your child may both be ready for longer stories and bigger books earlier than you think, even if they can’t quite grasp those books in their chubby hands. (Which, given babies’ page-ripping tendencies, is probably for the best.)

    Here are my seven best tips for reading picture books to a baby while still keeping the pages (and your sanity) intact. 

    • You don’t have to read every word. Picture books can be lengthy, so don’t feel like you have to read every single word on every single page. Especially when it’s a book my baby is experiencing for the first time, I’ll often just summarize the story. 
    • Point to pictures. One thing about picture books is that the illustrations are JUST as important as the text (for pre-literate babies, probably more so!). And as adult readers, we tend not to pay all that much attention to them because we’re busy reading the words. So sometimes I’ll ignore the story almost entirely and just focus on pointing out interesting things in the illustrations (“Look at the red car!” “Where’s the mouse?”). This makes reading picture books to a baby or toddler super interactive!
    • Lap sitting may not be the best choice. This is the vision: you sit with your baby on your lap or next to you while you snuggle and read peacefully. Right? It does sound nice, but it’s not great for protecting paper pages (and not super realistic for older babies that just want to be on the move). Try getting your baby used to longer stories by reading as you lay face-up on the ground, holding the book above your head, or letting your baby crawl around and do her thing as you read. And for maximum book-protection… you can always read while the baby is strapped in a high chair! 
    • It’s ok if your baby appears to be paying zero attention. Don’t take it personally if your baby or toddler is doing everything but sitting quietly and listening to the story! He can still hear you and is absorbing much more than you think. 
    • Read enthusiastically. Make animal sounds! Read with drama! Break out the accents and silly voices! All of it will be so fun for your baby and highly entertaining for any other family members that happen to be in the vicinity, too. 😉
    • Keep the board books around. You never want to make a hard jump between any level of books- board books to picture books or picture books to chapter books. Just go ahead and add new picture books to the rotation. When my babies get to the “grabbing” stage, I like to hand them a board book that they can play with, chew, and slobber on while I read the picture book.  
    • Calma, mi vida, con calma. It’s so hard not to be annoyed when a book gets ripped by an enthusiastic baby or toddler, but remember that this is just how your little one explores and experiences new things. There’s always tape! He’ll figure out how to be gentle eventually. The goal is to have a kid that loves books, not one that lives in fear of messing them up.

    Have I convinced you yet? Reading picture books to a baby is not only doable, it’s important! You might not be able to see it right away, but you’re setting an amazing foundation for your baby to be a lifelong reader.

    P.S. Here’s where you can find the BEST Spanish picture books in case you’d like to try these tips out!

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  • 5 Easy Ways to Add Spanish to your Daily Routine

    For the past few days I’ve found myself in an organizing frenzy: cleaning out my closet! making chore charts for the girls! creating a system to deal with all the papers that come back from school! etc. 

    I was a little mystified by this sudden motivation to improve everything until I remembered: September. We’re in September now, aka “the other January,” so of course I was all about creating new systems for our daily routine and trying to get organized. 

    And while I was thinking of new routines and new systems to implement, it occurred to me that this back-to-school time is also the perfect moment to add a little something else to new daily routines: E S P A Ñ O L! 

    pinterest graphic: add spanish to your daily routine

    So if you feel like perhaps you haven’t been speaking as much Spanish to your kids as you’d like to, this post is for you. All of these strategies are simple because let’s be real, things are only going to get busier from now until the holidays. But I truly believe that even a little bit of Spanish is absolutely better than no Spanish at all.  

    HOW TO ADD SPANISH TO YOUR DAILY ROUTINE

    Write a little note in Spanish, stick it in the lunch box. Do you do lunchbox notes? If so, try doing a few a week (or all of them) en español for a sweet way to practice reading in Spanish.

    Say a prayer/affirmations in Spanish. For praying folks, praying with your kids in Spanish is a really good way to talk about things they did that day or are thankful for in Spanish— hello, vocabulary building! (Giant disclaimer: obviously in this case language acquisition is completely secondary to spiritual communion, but you have to admit it’s a nice perk.) And if you’re not the praying sort, doing daily affirmations in Spanish with your kids could accomplish the same thing (in addition to being completely adorable). 

    Spanish at bedtime. Of course reading in Spanish was going to make its way on this list somehow :). If you aren’t already reading in Spanish during the day, the bedtime story is a natural time to do so! And if you happen to sing at bedtime, might I suggest choosing a Spanish lullaby?

    Spanish music in the morning. And speaking of singing, why not greet the day with some tunes en español! I’m partial to salsa music during the morning rush because I don’t drink caffeine and need all the energy I can get, but you could also try Spanish kids tunes as you’re making sure everyone has breakfast and locates shoes.

    Spanish in the car. If you happen to drive your kids to and from school, that time in the car is perfect to listen to an audiobook or kids’ podcast in Spanish. I’m always on the hunt for great ones, but a good place to start is Ven con un cuento on Spotify (though I really wish there were more episodes!). I’m planning on doing a roundup of the best audiobooks and podcasts for kids in Spanish, so stay tuned for that if you need some suggestions. 

    If you can think of other easy ways to add some Spanish to your family’s daily routine, leave a comment here!

    P.S. While we’re on the subject: some of my favorite Spanish picture books for back to school!

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  • My Pregnancy Favorites

    I remember scouring “pregnancy favorites” lists when I was pregnant with my first baby! Now that I’m nearing the end of my third pregnancy (all the hallelujahs and praise hands up in here), I decided that the best way to commemorate my (last??) time being with child was to make my own list.

    Pregnancy favorites list

    There are millions of lists like these online, but sometimes it’s just nice to hear from people you know (or e-know) and see if any of your favorites match up! Also, as I was making this list I realized some of these may be rather crunchy recommendations, and did you know I’m kind of a crunchy mom? Fun fact! 🙂

    1. Pregnancy pillow – The one I use and love is so old that it’s not for sale anymore, but this one has all kinds of great reviews and it’s affordable. If I was in the market to replace my ancient one, this one is probably what I’d grab! My bump this time around is bigger than either of my other two pregnancies, which means my back pain is also worse than it’s ever been (fun!). My pillow has been keeping me sane, especially now that we’re at the bittersweet end.
    2. L’Occitane Organic Certified & Fair Trade Approved Pure Shea Butter – I’m pretty sure that stretch marks are genetic (right?), but since when did that ever stop a pregnant woman on a mission to prevent them? I’ve used this shea butter every morning with each of my three pregnancies, and while I didn’t manage to escape stretch marks completely, it helps sooo much with the itching! Living in the desert, some sort of lotion/moisturizing action is necessary anyway unless you want to rock the “I’m a lizard” look, and I like that this stuff doesn’t smell like anything and doesn’t stain. And I really only got a few stretch marks so I’m going to go ahead and say that without this, I would have a lot more.   
    3. Sunstone Women’s/Pregnancy Tea***All the disclaimers that I’m not a health professional nor am I any sort of pregnancy veteran, so you should definitely check with your doc, etc.*** This tea was recommended to me by a friend in my first pregnancy. She knew I was going for an unmedicated birth and her midwife had her drink this tea sooo I drank it, too. I’m sure that again, genetics have a lot to do with this but both of my previous labors have been really short and uncomplicated (and unmedicated), which I attribute partly to my faithful guzzling! I used to add honey or agave to sweeten it a little, but now I just chug it, I guess the taste grew on me? 🙂 Typing this makes me feel guilty that I haven’t been drinking it as much this time around so BRB, going to make myself a cup.
    4. Slim and Toned Prenatal Barre Workout – I’m a firm believer that the more active I am, the better I feel, even (especially?) during pregnancy. I’m not a gym-goer during this season of life because I feel like by the time I get all the kids and myself out the door and do a workout it’s like, my whole morning is gone. So I really love at-home workouts that I can do quickly in the morning before we start our day. This one has been a fav, mainly because it burns but each segment is only 20 minutes long, which seems doable both at the barfy beginning of pregnancy and at the end of pregnancy when you’re feeling especially elephanty and don’t want to move. You also could do more than one segment at a time but… I basically never do.
    5. Hypnobirthing – Last but not least! I know this won’t be for everyone, but if you’re even slightly interested in alternative ways to combat fear and pain during labor, I’ve loved both of my Hypnobirth labors. Even if you choose to go with an epidural, I feel like the visualization, deep-breathing and other massage/labor comfort measures you learn could help anyone have a more pleasant birth. And fair warning that if you ever ask me about Hypnobirthing in person I’ll probably talk your ear off about how awesome and helpful it’s been for us! Highly recommended.

    This oldie always makes me laugh! I’m currently at the third from the right and I don’t think I’ve ever gotten to the last one, but I still have plentyyyy of days left I suppose.

    Tell me, am I missing any of your pregnancy favorites? I still have a whole 4 weeks of pregnancy (at least… my babies tend to come late) so enlighten me with any third trimester lifesavers, pretty please.

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  • My Child Won’t Speak Spanish

    If you’re raising a bilingual kid here in the U.S., no doubt you’ve experienced this issue (or will at some point): your child all of a sudden refuses to speak Spanish.

    Agh! The frustration! The confusion! Do you try to force it? Do you pretend you don’t understand English? Do you just carry on and ignore it? Have you done all of these things, like I have? 🙂

    I anticipate that this could be something we experience more and more with our kids, though luckily so far it hasn’t happened tooooo often. But the other day, while casually googling “my child won’t speak Spanish” (as one does, haha), I found the most brilliant analogy that I just had to share here.

    It comes from the research of Dr. Sabine Little, who works with bilingual families to see how they negotiate language policies at home. She thinks of the home language/minority language (Spanish in our case) as “Great Aunt Edna’s Vase.”

    Vase in the shape of a woman's head.

    Imagine that Great Aunt Edna passes on and leaves her treasured vase to her nephew. All kinds of things could happen, right? The nephew could have exactly the same taste and love her vase because he finds it beautiful. He also could think the vase is rather hideous, but keep it because it reminds him of how much he loved Great Aunt Edna. Orrr he might not care too much for either the vase OR Great Aunt Edna, so he stuffs it in a corner somewhere and lets it gather dust. Finally, he may think it’s so atrocious that he gives it away immediately and never thinks about it again.

    And that’s without taking into consideration what other family members might think and express about the florero!

    So the moral of the story is that this inherited gift can be a source of pride, conflict, guilt, love or disregard. And that’s just a vase! Imagine how complicated feelings can get when the inheritance is not an object, but a language!

    I’m working on a follow-up post with specific strategies on what you can actually DO when your kids won’t speak Spanish, but I thought this research was so interesting! Dr. Little found that parents often fail to talk with their kids about any complicated feelings regarding their bilingualism, which means that language could easily turn into a battleground for the family. I know I’ve seen that happen.

    Now that we’re a year away from our four year old starting kindergarten and officially switching from a mostly-Spanish day to a mostly-English day, I’m trying to prepare for this elementary school phase that Dr. Little calls “a common point of linguistic rebellion.” Her best advice? Keep renegotiating language choice with children as they grow up, and talk as much ABOUT language choice and the home language as IN the home language.  

    I’d love to hear from you, what has worked in your family (or hasn’t worked at all?). For us, pretending we don’t speak English wasn’t an option because hello, our kids are no dummies. My best strategy so far has been either asking a question in Spanish to gently remind everyone what we’re speaking (“Mommy, I did a puzzle today at school!” “Ah, ¿y de que era el rompecabezas?”) or just straight-up saying “En Español, por favor” if my more subtle approach isn’t working.

    Let me know in the comments what you do, and if you found the vase analogy as amazing as I did!

    (Photo of the vase by @evelyntannus on Instagram.)

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  • How Many Kids Do You Hope to Have?

    Foto of family holding ultrasound announcement

    In September, I found out I was pregnant with our third baby. This is how Josh realized I was pregnant: after taking the pregnancy test, I made plans to take him to a fancy restaurant and tell him. Buuuut right before he got home, the babysitter canceled and I cried and cried. Apparently my reaction to this not-catastrophic news was a dead giveaway, haha.  

    One of my friends mentioned the other day that every once in a while she will look around the table at her family (she has two kids) and think, “Are we all here? Is this still everyone?” She said that so far, the answer has always been yes. So although she hasn’t ruled out a third kid entirely, she feels like her 6-year-old and her 8-year-old are the only ones she’s supposed to have (at least for now).

    I think that clarity is pretty enviable! As for me, I kind of had always imagined I’d have at least three kids. At first I thought it was just because I’m one of three, so maybe it was my subconscious telling me that’s what a family looks like. But as we started considering a third baby, I definitely felt that we really were missing someone.

    I will say that after a rather trying transition from one kid to two kids, I thought we might leave a bigger gap between baby #2 and baby #3. Surprise!

    As it turned out, our kids will all be 2 years and 2 months apart, which is pleasantly symmetrical I suppose (viéndolo por el lado amable).  

    I think family size is such an interesting subject, and I’m so curious: How many kids do you hope to have? One, two or more? None? Not sure? Do you and your partner agree on the number?

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